In our fast-paced society, many of my clients face the challenge of overcommitment and overworking. This tendency is influenced by various socio-economic pressures, such as the need to perform and keep up with the rapid changes in our world. While some of these pressures are systemic and vast, recognizing and detaching from the internalized beliefs about productivity can offer significant freedom. Rather than enacting habitual programming that may have been helpful in the past but is no longer supportive, you can make decisions that are more aligned to your needs and self-awareness. You may realize you have more choice in the moment than you may have thought.
Below are some journal prompts crafted to guide your exploration through the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). These prompts are designed to help you connect more deeply with your feelings and needs in relation to overworking. As you reflect on each question, please use the accompanying feelings and needs list link to support your inquiry.
Reward and Recognition: Reflect on times when you received belonging, acceptance, or appreciation for exceeding expectations. Using the NVC feelings and needs list, identify the emotions and needs that were met during these instances.
How does striving for perfection or excellence relate to your sense of self-worth and identity?
Have there been other ways that these needs were met while you were in alignment with your deepest self?
Past Experiences and Validation: Think about moments from your past where being capable, helpful, or productive brought you validation or a sense of belonging. Acknowledge the feelings of joy or fulfillment from these achievements.
How can you integrate this understanding into a more balanced work-life approach while honoring your emotional needs?